Ismail Kamdar

Ismail Kamdar is the Founder of Islamic Self Help and Izzah Academy, author of over a dozen books, and the operations manager of Yaqeen Institute.
Ismail Kamdar is the Founder of Islamic Self Help and Izzah Academy, author of over a dozen books, and the operations manager of Yaqeen Institute.

Reflections: 5 Years of Homeschooling

Reflections: 5 Years of Homeschooling

In 2013, I made a very difficulty decision: I decided that in 2014 I will begin homeschooling my children. It was a difficult and frightening decision because it was something new, something different, and one of those things you can’t see the result of until years later. 5 years of homeschooling later…I believe it was one of the best decisions of my life.

My children are growing beautifully. They have excellent character, a love of learning, and loving personalities. The results of homeschooling so far have been even better than I imagined.

As my eldest children begin their sixth year of homeschooling, I am reflecting on many of the lessons I learned over the past five years. Here are five of the most important ones.

1. Homeschooling is hard work

I work multiple jobs and run multiple online businesses. But nothing I do is harder than homeschooling my children. It is time consuming, requires a lot of thinking, planning, research and buckets of patience.

Yet it is at the same time the most fulfilling aspect of my life. I truly believe that anything worth doing is hard work. And homeschooling is no exception. It is hard work but the fruits of it are worth it. It is a long term investment a great future for our children, what could be a better usage of time than that?

If you plan to homeschool your children, do not expect it to be easy. It can be extremely challenging and time consuming but it is definitely worth it.

2. School is obsolete and we need an alternative soon

There is no doubt in my mind that the current school system is obsolete and outdated. It was built for the 20th century and is no longer relevant in the information age. With children now having access to online courses, Google, Wikipedia and YouTube within seconds, there is no real point in memorizing facts about history and geography.

The system needs a major overhaul, or even better a new system altogether to replace it. I spend a lot of my time thinking of solutions to this problem that can be applied at a global level. Homeschooling isn’t one of these solutions, and I will explain why in the next point.

3. Homeschooling is not the mass solution

Homeschooling is not the alternative to school that can be applied across the globe for one main reason: it depends on the parents being committed and effective educators. And not every home in the world has such parents.

Homeschooling only works when parents are able to give the time, energy and commitment to make it work. It is entirely dependent on the attitude and aptitude of the parents. Therefore, it may work exceptionally well for a few, but can fail terribly for others.

What we need is something that can be applied across the globe, and is not depended on parents. I spend many hours every day reflecting on this and working on ideas. My hope is one day to invent a new education for the 21st century to replace school.

4. Children are capable for far more than society thinks

Children are extraordinary in their capabilities, but school, society and social norms hold them back too much. This is one thing I love about interacting with other homeschooling families, or adults who were homeschooled as children. They are far more in tune with their capabilities and less restricted by cultural norms.

Why shouldn’t a 10 year old start his own business?

Why shouldn’t an 8 year old write and publish her first book?

Why can’t a 13 year old invent a device that benefits humanity?

Our children are capable of so much, so do not hold them back from realizing their God-given potential.

5. A family that studies together sticks together

One of my favorite things about homeschooling is the amount of quality time spent with my family. The result is extremely close bonds with every member of the family.

Being able to develop a close relationship with each of your children is priceless. It is something every family must focus on, regardless of whether you homeschool or not.

Even if you don’t homeschool, make time at least one a week for the family to study together. Whether it is a group discussion, a family field trip, reading time or watching beneficial YouTube videos together. Whatever works for you, just make time to connect with your children on an intellectual level. The bonds this creates are priceless.

If you want to learn more about homeschooling, sign up for our free homeschooling course by clicking here.

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Never Lose Hope in Allah’s Mercy

The Verse Of Hope

Note: This article is an extract from our latest publication: The Book Of Hope For Sinners.

O My slaves who have transgressed against their own souls!  Do not despair of the Mercy of Allah: Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Truly He is Most-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (The Noble Qur’an, 39:53)

This is one of the most important verses of the Qur’an related to sin: the Verse of Hope. In this verse, Allah reminds all His sinful slaves that no matter what sins they have fallen into, Allah can still forgive them.

The Qur’an was sent as a book of hope for humanity. Allah created each of us as weak sinners. He knows every human will make mistakes. Some will make bigger mistakes than others.

Some may even fall into major sins. But Allah does not want any of us to ever lose hope in His Mercy, no matter what sins we have committed.

Paradise awaits

My friend, understand that Allah created both Paradise and Hell for sinners. The only difference is that Paradise is for those sinners whom Allah has forgiven.

He may forgive them because of their repentance, a good deed they did, or the intercession of Prophet Muhammad (salallahu alahi wasalam). It is also possible that Allah may just forgive them out of His Divine and Infinite Mercy.

Hell is for those sinners whom Allah decrees punishment or purification. Just as gold is heated to separate the dirt from the pure gold, Allah may decide to send some believers into Hell to purify them from the filth of their sins before eventually entering them into Paradise.

Ultimately, all sinners who believed in Allah and worshipped Him alone (or repented from worshipping others) will enter Paradise. So, Paradise will be full of those who had been sinners in this life. This should make you hopeful that you, too, can make it to Paradise.

The Purpose Of Good Deeds

You may wonder what the point of good deeds and repentance is if even the biggest sinners eventually make it to Paradise. This is a good question.

Good deeds and repentance may prevent punishment altogether. They can lead to entrance into Paradise without any punishment in the grave or Hereafter. Avoiding punishment alone makes good deeds and repentance valuable and worth pursuing, but there are even greater reasons for doing good deeds, and I will discuss those at the end of this book.

A Short Tafseer

But now, let’s examine this beautiful verse and be inspired towards hope and repentance.

O My slaves

Allah begins by addressing us sinners with the personal pronoun ‘my’ indicating that we belong to Him and that He still loves and cares for His sinful slaves despite their wrongdoings.

Who have transgressed against their own souls

Sin harms our own souls in both worlds. In this world, sin causes inner turmoil and guilt. After death, it is the reason for severe punishment. This is why Allah describes sin as a transgression against our own souls.

Do not despair of the Mercy of Allah

The devil wants us to despair of Allah’s Mercy as this will cause us to plunge deeper into sin and eventually disbelief.

Remember that the devil’s goal isn’t to cause you to sin. His goal is to cause you to leave Islam. Encouraging sinful habits is a means towards achieving that goal. 

Allah never wants us to despair, because hope is the path that keeps bringing us back to Allah.

Indeed, Allah forgives all sins

Any sin can be forgiven with repentance, including the greatest sin – shirk, worshipping other than Allah.

When an idol worshipper converts to Islam, his conversion is accepted as his repentance and becomes a means of him being forgiven for any previous acts of shirk.

If Allah can forgive the greatest sin, He can forgive your sins too.

Truly He is Most-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

From the beauty of the Qur’an is that Allah ends verses by mentioning His names that are relevant to the topic of that verse. As this verse is about hope and forgiveness, Allah reminds us that He is Most Merciful, Most Forgiving. (I discuss these names and their implications in more detail in the book.)

Reflecting on this beautiful verse, we learn that the devil wants us to lose hope, but Allah wants us to repent and hope for His Mercy. He is Most Forgiving, Most Merciful and He forgives any sin when you sincerely repent. So, never hesitate to raise your hands in repentance and experience Allah’s Mercy.

A Transformative Book

This article is an extract from The Book Of Hope For Sinners. If you want to read more on this topic, you can purchase the full eBook by clicking here.

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The Book of Hope for Sinners

Book Of Hope

The Book of Hope for Sinners

Islamic Self Help is excited to announce the latest book from Shaykh Ismail Kamdar: ‘The Book of Hope for Sinners’. 

The Book Of Hope For Sinners is a compilation of Quranic verses and Hadiths (with commentary) focused on inspiring hope and transformation for those who have fallen into sin.

Book Description

Every human sins, but Islam shows us a way back regardless of how severe or many our sins are.

Every human sins, and God accepts the repentance for all sins. This beautiful book was written to inspire every sinner to hope in God’s Mercy, seek His Forgiveness, and work towards spiritual transformation. 

In this book you will find various verses of the Quran and narrations from Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) aimed at inspiring the soul to have hope in God’s Mercy and Repent. 

Islam is the religion of hope and mercy, and this book was written to help sinners experience that hope and mercy once again.

About The Author

Shaykh Ismail Kamdar is a graduate of a traditional Alim program and also holds a Bachelors in Islamic Studies. He has studied Islam in both tradition and modern settings and has been a student of Islamic Studies for almost two decades.

He began studying Islam full-time at the age of thirteen, began preaching at the age of sixteen, and wrote his first book at the age of twenty-three. Over the years, he has taught multiple courses and seminars around the world, and has worked with multiple leading Islamic organizations across the globe.

He currently works from home freelancing for various organizations and companies, while homeschooling his children and writing books. He hopes to inspire the ummah to return to their former glory and become a role model for the world once again.

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Powerful Time Management Systems for Busy Career Muslims

Guest Post By Dr. Aimen Of The Muslim Youth Programme

Powerful Time Management Systems for Busy Career Muslims

Busy Muslims

“I can’t manage my time as well as other successful Muslims do”.

“I’m busier than most people”.

“I’ve tried to follow some time management tips. I even downloaded top productivity apps but nothing seems to work for long!”

Would you agree with any of the statements above? This is real stuff that real Muslims have said to me.

We all like to think of ourselves as special unicorns when it comes to time management, but the reality is almost ALL of us can relate to the statements above.

So how come some Muslims seem to get a ginormous amount of work done and still manage to spend quality time with family yet the rest of us struggle to just get through the day?

Here’s the harsh truth:

  1. All of us have the same amount of hours in a day. But only some of us manage our time really well.
  2. You can download ALL the productivity apps in the world and learn every tactic in the book, but if you don’t make these basic changes in your life, you’ll never be able to manage your time. That’s how harsh the reality is.

What basic changes am I talking about? And how can I say this with such confidence? Read on to find out.

THE BROAD-TO-NARROW APPROACH:

When it comes to time management, approach it with a broad-to-narrow mindset.

The broadest area that needs to be managed first covers all your fundamentals.

Fundamentals include sleep, environment, workplace, diet etc. If you fail to optimize your environment for productivity, nothing else matters. The funny thing is, most of us ignore this saying that it’s the same old advice we hear from our grandmothers. Well, turns out our grandmas are most definitely right.

That’s precisely why if you think an app will help you manage your time, you have already lost.

Only AFTER you have optimized your environment (home as well as work), should you start focusing on other things like motivation, discipline, eliminating time-wasters, planning, delegating tasks etc.

 

COVERING THE BASICS: 4 ridiculously simple fundamentals we all know but don’t follow

If you get these straight, you are way ahead of 90% of Muslims struggling with time management.

# 1: 7-8 Hours of sleep. Every. Night.

Sounds like boring advice right? Maybe you’re nodding and saying “yeah I get it”. But very few of you are actually going to take it seriously and fix your sleeping routine.

Today, sleep is seen as some kind of weakness. People who sleep less than 7 hours and work more are identified as productivity gurus. The truth is less sleep makes you physically weak and mentally unfocused.

According to the teachings of our Prophet (S.A.W) sleep holds a HUGE place in the productivity matrix. Prophet (S.A.W) gave detailed guidelines covering the importance of sleeping early, duration of sleep, the manners of sleeping, mid-day naps, sleep position etc. So consider sleep as a blessing from Allah.

And among his signs is your sleep by night and by day and your seeking of His bounty, verily in that are Signs for those who hearken” 

[Quran, Surah Rum 30: Ayah 23]

If we don’t fix this fundamental part of our life following guidelines from Sunnah, we just can’t expect to be productive Muslims.  Also, once you get in the habit of sleeping 7-8 hours each night, the remaining parts of this time management system will become way easier.

# 2: Get yourself, your room and your work-place organized.

Let me tell you a weird thing I do. I clear my head a minimum of 7 times a day. I know- C.R.A.Z.Y. But. It helps declutter my mind and keeps me focused while working.

Do you have to be as weird as me to be productive? Absolutely not. Then how does this translate for you?

Do whatever floats your boat to declutter your mind, your work/ study space, your room etc. (Don’t go overboard and start decluttering your entire neighborhood :D).

The habit of decluttering will save you HOURS each day. It will also save you from unnecessary stress and overwhelm you feel because of a messy environment. Remember, overwhelm is one of the biggest killers of productivity.

Here are a few ways you can declutter your mind:

  • If you are a worrywart and tend to overthink things a lot, set aside 15 minutes of your time to just worry. As you catch yourself worrying during any other time of the day, remind yourself that it’s not time to worry yet. When it’s time to worry, sit down and worry. But this way, you won’t allow your regular worries to take over your entire
  • Talk to yourself. Out LOUD. It’s insanely effective. Whenever you are feeling overwhelmed and are overthinking things, step outside where nobody can hear you and say all the thoughts that are bothering you out loud. It will free up space inside your brain and you will come back to work feeling strangely relieved. This is what I personally do every day to declutter my mind.
  • If you are a Journal-lover, then keep a plain/ bullet journal where you can create mind-maps of your thoughts to organize them. I create mind-maps before working on complicated projects.

Here are a few ways you can declutter your work zone by removing distractions:

  • Remove all unnecessary objects from your work space (extra books that you won’t be reading that day, magazines, rough papers etc.)
  • Put your phone, iPad and all unnecessary gadgets away (or on flight mode) while working.
  • Close all extra tabs on your laptop.
  • If you have a stay-at-home job, create a separate area for work (that’s NOT your bedroom).
  • Stick daily reminders of the most important tasks for the day on your notice board (if you don’t have it, DIY it) or table using sticky notes.
  • Decide what piles of paper and stationery goes in the drawers and what stays on your desk.
  • Designate different drawers for particular things such as older files/ books, stationery, paper cups etc.
  • Make a habit of decluttering your work table at the end of every workday.

# 3: Your DAILY schedule and routine matters the MOST.

Do you follow routines? If you don’t, you better start now.

If you believe that you can manage your time most efficiently without a productive morning (and night) routine, think again.

Have you ever wondered why Allah S.W.T made 5 prayers on fixed times every day obligatory upon us?

One of the many reasons could be that this Fard (obligatory) act of Ibadah teaches us the importance of regularity and consistency.

Knowing when you’ll sleep and wake up each day is one of the most important fundamentals of time management.

Want to take your productivity a step forward? Create a morning routine according to the Sunnah of our beloved Prophet (S.A.W). Stay awake after Fajr prayer, read Quran, make dua, exercise, plan your day and pray Salah-tul-Duha before you go to work.

A productive morning routine will add the special power ingredient to your time: Barakah.

# 4: Be mindful of the people you surround yourself with.

Think about the people you interact with regularly. Do you let them steal your time (unintentionally) with idle talk?

While we are too busy focusing on productivity apps and cool time management techniques, we forget to notice the amount of time we waste being in the company of slackers.

Stay away from slackers who waste time talking.

The Prophet SAW said: “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him say what is good or remain silent.” [Bukhari and Muslim]

Avoid being in the company of idle people at your workplace or college because you’ll not only waste time that way but also lose Barakah from your day, not to mention become prone to gossiping or backbiting.

Instead, try and surround yourself with productive Muslims who value time. I assure you that you’ll feel the difference in your energy levels as well as the number of tasks you’ll be able to accomplish on such days.

Now that we’ve covered our basics, let me introduce you to the concept of creating planning SYSTEMS in your life that will save you countless hours each week.

 

Creating Weekly and Daily Planning Systems

 

Here’s the way I see things: Weekly and daily plans are essential for maximizing productivity.

Set up your planning system once and you’re done forever. From that point on, all you have to do is follow it.

For busy career Muslims, I can understand how difficult it is to follow plans. But trust me when I say this: Efficient plans should make things easier for you not harder.

If you can never manage to follow your plan then I’m going to be honest with you and say that you’re probably doing something wrong while planning. And that’s fine. Because today I want to give you a clear outline you can follow while creating a realistic plan that will push you to take action and save you time that you waste while trying to figure out where to start.

Here are 4 simple rules you can follow when planning your day:

  1. Plan your day ideally the night before or early morning as a part of your morning routine.
  2. Keep only 3 MITs (most important tasks) for a day. If you keep anywhere between 1 to 3 tasks on your daily planner, you’ll feel less overwhelmed, will be able to actually complete them and will feel more satisfied with yourself at the end of the day.
  3. Follow a task execution system to complete your tasks. I personally use the Pomodoro technique. Other methods include time-blocking, 80/20 rule
  4. Spend 5min on self-evaluation and review at the end of the day. Take note of how many tasks you managed to complete. If you’re consistently unable to complete 3 major tasks per day, figure out the cause and remove it. (Causes could be wasting time on social media, overloading your day with more than you can get done, procrastination, spending too much time on one task etc.)

The next challenge that undoubtedly all of us face are emotional barriers of one kind or another.

Facing the Psychological and Emotional Barriers to Productivity

Here are a few of the common emotional barriers (there are plenty others) that stand in the way of our productivity.

  • Motivation
  • Consistency
  • Procrastination
  • Setting boundaries

No quick 10-second tactic will help you get through this stage and if you can’t move past it, no technique/ app can help you be productive in the long-term. Yes, it’s hard. But only you can do it.

With that said, I want to show you simple ways in which you can tackle each of these barriers.

  1. The biggest source of motivation is within yourself.

We are all waiting for that motivation-pill that will solve everything for us within seconds. It doesn’t exist.

The strongest motivation is that which comes from within. Don’t wait for someone around you to motivate you to do things you need to do.

Why do you need motivation anyway? To achieve your goals. Your goals could be anything, for e.g., losing 10 pounds of weight, studying Tafseer of the Quran, completing a work-related project etc.

The best way to find that motivation within self is by setting up systems to work on your goals. Create planning systems that make large long-term goals so easy to achieve that you can get up and work even on low motivation days.

Also, make sure you schedule all the tasks you need to do, in order to achieve your goals, in your monthly calendar. Setting up your schedule will ensure you cover each task in a systemic way.

You should think of motivation as a type of energy. Just like with other types of energy, the motivational energy stores get depleted over the course of your day. So, you can prevent burnouts by giving frequent breaks to both; your body and your mind.

  1. Build goal-oriented habits for consistency.

When you learn how to motivate yourself every day to work on your big goals, consistency becomes a no-brainer.

All you need to do is set up goal-oriented daily habits that are easy to maintain and you’re good.

For e.g. if your large goal at the moment is writing a book, you could dedicate an hour or two early morning (or whenever you are most creative) every day to write a few hundred words. You could fix a time in your daily schedule for that one task and focus only on that particular task.

Would it be right to say you’ll be consistent if you are working on your goal every day even if for a few hours? I’d say so. Those couple hours every day will add up over weeks and before you know it, you’ll be standing at the finish line.

But that’s not what most of us do right? We get excited over a new goal we’ve set for ourselves and jump right into it. In a matter of days, we get burnt out and leave it altogether, saying to ourselves “I don’t have time for this. I’ll work on it when I get some time.” Does that time ever come? Of course not.

That’s why setting up small goal-oriented habits is the key to consistency.

  1. Procrastination kills time and gets you nowhere.

Narrated by Uqba bin Al-Harith: Once the Prophet (S.A.W) offered the Asr prayer and then hurriedly went to his house and returned immediately. I (or somebody else) asked him (as to what was the matter) and he said, “I left at home a piece of gold which was from the charity and I disliked to let it remain a night in my house, so I got it distributed.” [Sahih Bukhari]

Here’s what we can take away from this Hadith: You have a task you need to do? Get up and do it immediately or else Shaiytan will convince you “you don’t need to do it now”. Over time he’ll convince you that “you don’t need to it at all”.

You don’t want to be in that position where you’re hosting a constant war within self just to get that task done.

It is much easier to just get up and do the task than fight a battle within yourself that will most likely end up with you doing the task anyway but also wasting plenty of precious time in the process.

  1. Setting boundaries, outsourcing and delegating.

So many times when I hear someone say they’re overwhelmed, I find out that they don’t know how to set boundaries. As a working Muslim or student, you need to set clear boundaries. If you don’t, you will get pulled in a hundred different directions and feel constantly overwhelmed.

Another common problem we all face is outsourcing our tasks to others. Let me give you a 2-min solution for deciding which task to delegate.

So before you decide to work on a time-consuming task, put that task in a funnel. Ask yourself 2 questions:

  1. Do you need to do this task now? This short question will help you eliminate unnecessary tasks and decide which ones are urgent (need your immediate attention) and which ones can wait for later.
  2. Would it make sense to delegate the task that might take you longer than it would take someone else (because of the lack of your expertise in that area)? I think it would.

For example, if you’re a writer and you don’t know much about designing a book cover, find someone else who does (a graphic designer) rather than spending hours trying to do it yourself.

Another way to delegate tasks is by teaching someone else, who might be interested, to do the things you already know how to do but don’t want to spend time actually doing them.

Winding up, this approach is probably different from the time management tactics you read everywhere.

Yes, I agree it’s more challenging to follow a system that forces you to step out of your comfort zone, face your psychology and take action because we all want quick 1 min solutions to our problems. But trust me, once you follow this system you’ll no longer have to rely on others motivating you.

You’ll learn how to plan, execute tasks, control your environment, achieve big goals slowly but surely, and set boundaries.

Set up these systems once and you’re finished, as compared to other Muslims who spend their entire lives wondering why they aren’t productive and able to manage time as well as other successful Muslims do.

Now I’m curious. Tell me one thing you do to manage your time as a busy career Muslim. Let’s talk in the comments section below!

AUTHOR BIO: Aimen is a Medical Doctor and the founder of Muslim Youth Programme. She teaches self-development to young Muslims struggling with the fitnah of this century. Her aim is to educate and empower Muslims with practical advice on self-development, productivity, studies and health, with insights on Islamic psychology. Jumpstart your productivity and take action on your goals by signing up to her latest FREE productivity Bootcamp for Muslims.

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