Ismail Kamdar

Ismail Kamdar is the Founder of Islamic Self Help and Izzah Academy, author of over a dozen books, and the operations manager of Yaqeen Institute.
Ismail Kamdar is the Founder of Islamic Self Help and Izzah Academy, author of over a dozen books, and the operations manager of Yaqeen Institute.

Gratitude in the age of complaining

Gratitude

Gratitude: A Fundamental of Faith

Gratitude is from the fundamental qualities of a Muslim. In fact, it directly impacts our relationship with our Creator. The following story illustrates this beautifully:

When Ayesha Bint Abi Bakr (RA) saw the Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) praying a long night prayer in tears, she asked him a very practical question. She asked, “Oh Prophet of Allah, why do you go through so much effort (in worship) even though Allah has forgiven for you your earlier and later sins?”

His reply was extremely brief and profound, “Should I not be a thankful servant?” (Sahih Bukhari, Hadith: 1130 and Sahih Muslim, Hadith: 2819)

The Prophet’s (peace be upon him) relationship with Allah was founded on gratitude. As he is our role model, we too should aim to have a relationship with Allah based upon gratitude.

The results of such gratitude is clear in Allah’s promise:

And [remember] when your Lord proclaimed, If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]; but if you are ungrateful, indeed, My punishment is severe.(Surah Ibraheem 14:7)

The promise of Allah is simple and clear: be grateful, you will receive more bounties. Be ungrateful, and your sources of misery will increase

Positive Thinking And Self Help

In Self Help material, no matter how secular the author, there is a strong emphasis on gratitude. Many people around the world have experienced increase in blessings when they live a life of gratitude. Some secular sources list as many as 30 benefits of gratitude.

When modern research and Islamic principles agree on the importance of being grateful and thankful, why then is ingratitude so common today?

The Age of Complaining

Complaining and taking offence have become international hobbies. There doesn’t seem to be a single day in which Muslims are not upset, offended by, angry or ranting about something.

We complain about everything: politics, scholars, lack of scholars, people being too conservative, people being too liberal, someone using words we didn’t like, and of course Islamaphobia.  The list goes on and on.

While many of these are legit grievances, ask yourself how much has your complaining actually helped the ummah?

At the time of the Prophet (peace be upon him), did he not have as many things to complain about? He was exiled from his city, slandered by his people, lost many of those closest to him, and injured by his enemies. Yet his response to all this was “Should I not be a thankful servant?”

Despite all the negative events occurring around him, he always found something to be grateful for, so should we.

The Danger Of The Complaining Era

The problem with our current era is that all this complaining creates a negative vibe. We end up full of rage, malcontent, bitterness, and sadness. None of these emotions are productive, and as a result, we spend so much time complaining, but so little time actually doing anything constructive.

This needs to change, and the change has to start with us. We need to let go of our habit of complaining, and replace it with a habit of thanking Allah.

How to make the shift

The first step to change this is to become more selective in our social media. The way most of us configure our social media accounts, we are bombarded with negative news and comments all day long. This makes it almost impossible to experience any positive emotion at any point in the day.

Instead, create some filters. Let your main news feeds reflect only positive accounts, keep more depressing accounts aside for only when you need to read them. And PLEASE avoid the comment section at all costs!

In a previous article, I listed 25 ways to express gratitude daily. I highly recommend reading that article and applying its teachings to your life. The list is short, simple and extremely practical.

Personally, I start each day by listing three things to be grateful for, and then thanking Allah for these blessings, and I try to make a unique list every single day. This helps me start my day on a positive note, and avoid negative emotions.

If you make the shift from complaining to expressing gratitude, you will experience inner peace, positive emotions, increased productivity, and an increase in blessings. So what are you waiting for, make the change today!

 

Posted by Ismail Kamdar in Positive Thinking

Coming Soon: Islamic Self Help’s First Fiction Book

Coming Soon…

Islamic Self Help presents Shaykh Ismail Kamdar’s first fiction book: ‘Ahmad Climbs A Mountain: A Parable About Goal-Setting’. (coming soon…launching end of August 2017)

Coming Soon

Ahmad Climbs A Mountain will tell the tale of a young boy from a village in a valley with a high goal. He dreams of climbing a mountain, escaping the valley, and exploring the world on the other side.

What To Expect

This story will focus on Ahmad’s journey and the challenges he faces along the way. Climbing the mountain will not be easy, Ahmad will have to face many perils. He will have to deal with family and friends trying to discourage him. He will have to deal with internal struggles like self-doubt, fear, and lack of confidence. And he will have to overcome physical challenges too.

Ahmad’s journey will not be easy. Through it, he will learn, grow, and evolve into a better man. Will he accomplish his goal and find what he is looking for? Read the full book to find out!

A Parable

The story is written as a Self Help Parable. Through it, the author hopes to get readers thinking about their own goals and their own challenges. By looking at how Ahmad deals with each challenge along his climb, readers can learn valuable lessons on how to deal with their own obstacles and achieve their own dreams.

Release Date…coming soon

The eBook will be available before the end of August. We will be announcing the launch date very soon. The eBook will be available at Islamic Self Help, Payhip, Gumroad, and Amazon Kindle.

A paperback version of the book is currently in development, but may take much longer to produce. Most likely, it will be released in early 2018, if we find a good publishing partner in time.

Ahmad Climbs a Mountain will be a groundbreaking release for Islamic Self Help, expanding our range of books from self help tips and workbooks into a new realm: Self Help Fiction. Stay tuned for more details coming soon…

Check out Islamic Self Help’s full range of eBooks here.

 

 

Posted by Ismail Kamdar in Books

Three Hadiths About Time Management

Three Hadiths About Time Management

This is an extract from my eBook, Getting The Barakah: An Islamic Guide To Time Management. You can purchase the full eBook here. These three hadiths are explained in chapter two of the eBook.

To begin, we need to look at a commonly misunderstood term, Rizq. Rizq refers to everything that Allah has provides us with, we can translate it as resources. Rizq is not restricted to wealth and material resources as many people think. The resources that Allah has provided us with are many. They include wealth, health, youth, family, friends, safety, knowledge, intellectual capabilities and, what concerns us most in this book, time.

First Reflection:

In order to truly appreciate the importance of time management, we must understand and acknowledge that time a part of our Rizq. It is a resource that Allah has provide to us, just like our health and wealth. There are two special qualities about time that separate it from the other types of Rizq we receive:

  1. Every human is provided with the exact same amount of time in a day.
  2. Time is the only resource that is not renewable. Once it is used, it is gone forever.

Each of the above points has a direct repercussion on the way we think about time.

Second Reflection

The following three points should make us realize how precious a resource our time really is: Time is similar to other resources in that only Allah knows how much time each person has in this world.

Some live for a short time and accomplish great things, because they value that time. Some live for a long time without accomplishing anything, because they did not realize the value of time until it was too late.

  1. As every human has the exact same amount of time per day as another, there is nothing we can do to increase our time, but we can have an edge over others is how we manage our time.
  2. As time is not renewable, it would be foolish to waste it or kill it. Why waste a precious resource that you are never going to get back?
  3. As we don’t know how much time we really have on this earth, can we really afford to waste time now and wait until later in life to do things that are important to us?

With this in mind, it becomes clear that time is a precious resource from Allah that must be used for good. We can also understand that wasting time is like wasting money. Rather it is worse!

Because you can always make up for lost money, but you can never make up for time that has been lost.

The First Hadith:

The Hadiths[1] related to time become very clear when we analyse them from this perspective. Reflect on the following Hadiths in light of the above:

عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ لِرَجُلٍ وَهُوَ يَعِظُهُ اغْتَنِمْ خَمْسًا قَبْلَ خَمْسٍ شَبَابَكَ قَبْلَ هَرَمِكَ وَصِحَّتَكَ قَبْلَ سَقَمِكَ وَغِنَاكَ قَبْلَ فَقْرِكَ وَفَرَاغَكَ قَبْلَ شُغُلِكَ وَحَيَاتَكَ قَبْلَ مَوْتِكَ

“Take benefit of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your sickness, your wealth before your poverty, your free time before you are preoccupied, and your life before your death” (Narrated by Ibn Abbas and reported by Al Hakim)

Author’s Reflection:

  1. Everything mentioned in this Hadith is a type of Rizq: youth, health, wealth, free time and our life as a whole
  2. Therefore we must be very careful in how we utilize each of the above
  3. Notice that the Hadith mentions free time and not time as a whole. Due to the necessities of life, there are times in the day that we have to do certain things (Work, Salah) and we can’t use that time for anything else, so it’s really how we utilize our free time that matters.

The Second Hadith

عَنْ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَ قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ نِعْمَتَانِ مَغْبُونٌ فِيهِمَا كَثِيرٌ مِنْ النَّاسِ الصِّحَّةُ وَالْفَرَاغُ

“There are two blessings which many people lose: (They are) health and free time for doing good.” (Bukhari 8/421)

Author’s Reflection:

  1. This Hadith focuses on two resources: health and free time.
  2. Both of these are necessary resources for doing good deeds. It is difficult to do good deeds without good health or enough time to do it properly.
  3. These are two things that most people take for granted. For some reason, we don’t appreciate these blessings from Allah until they are taken away from us.
  4. The best way to show appreciation to Allah for a blessing is to use it as a tool for good. Therefore, our free time must be utilized and we cannot allow it to be wasted.

The Third Hadith

قَالَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ يُؤْذِينِي ابْنُ آدَمَ يَسُبُّ الدَّهْرَ وَأَنَا الدَّهْرُ بِيَدِي الْأَمْرُ أُقَلِّبُ اللَّيْلَ وَالنَّهَارَ

“Allah said, ‘The son of Adam wrongs me for he curses Ad-Dahr (Time); though I am Ad-Dahr (Time). In My Hands are all things, and I cause the revolution of day and night” (Al-Bukhari)

Author’s Reflection:

  1. In this Hadith Al-Qudsi[2], Allah says that He is Time. The scholars clarify this to mean that time is controlled and provided to us by Allah. It is a blessing from Allah and so cursing it is like cursing Allah.
  2. When we feel that time is slipping away and that we don’t have enough time to accomplish what we want in life, don’t curse time because you were given the same amount of time in a day as everybody else. Rather, take that moment to analyse how you spent your time and what you can do differently.

Conclusion

This creates a mind-set that is focused on keeping track of time and utilizing it to the best of our abilities. If we are only going to be in this world for a limited period of time, and during that time we need to balance our duties towards our Creator, our families, our society and ourselves then the only way to get that done is with strict time management.The above Hadiths all indicate the same thing, that the true believer understands the importance of time and refuses to waste it. It is a precious asset that is deteriorating every second, and so an hour wasted is an hour that we can never get back.

This is what I hope to accomplish in this book, to assist you to gain the necessary tools and habits that can help you get the best out of your day. These tools can be used in our work life, study life, family life, leisure time and spiritual life. In fact, when used properly, these tools help us to balance between all of these parts of our lives and that is the correct way for a believer to live, a balanced life, never wasting any time, always working towards a higher goal.

[1] Hadith: A narration containing information about what the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said or did

[2] Hadith Al-Qudsi: A Hadith narration quoting Allah directly. It is considered a separate category from a Hadith quoting the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)

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Posted by Ismail Kamdar in Time Management

As-Salaam: Finding Peace in the Source of Peace

As Salaam Peace

The Beautiful Names

As-Salaam is one of Allah’s Asma Al-Husnaa (Beautiful Names). In a previous article, we discussed the importance of these names. In that article, I stated:

Each of these names encompass a perfect attribute of Allah. It is very important that we take the time to study, analysis and reflect on these names. Doing so will help us to understand our Creator and improve our relationship with Him.

In this article, I want to focus on one specific name of Allah: As-Salaam.

As-Salaam – The Source of Peace

One of the names of Allah mentioned in the Qur’an is As-Salaam. Which translates into English as The Source of Peace. This name is mentioned in the following verse:

He is Allah, besides Whom there is no other god; the King, the Holy, the Source of Peace (As-Salaam), the Securer, the Guardian, the Mighty, the Compeller, the Exalted. Glorified be Allah above the partners which they ascribe! (Surah Al-Hashr 59: 23)

This verse makes it clear that As-Salaam is a name of Allah. Salaam means peace and in its absolute form, it can be translated as The Source of Peace. This should formulate our understanding of who Allah is. Allah is the Source of Peace. Which means that all forms of peace, both inner and outer, come from Allah alone. So if we want peace, we have to turn to Allah.

How to experience inner peace

If any human wishes to experience peace, improving one’s relationship with Allah is the starting point. The closer someone is to Allah, the more at peace they feel internally, even if the world is falling apart around them.

When anyone distances himself from Allah through sin and disobedience, it leads to anxiety and inner turmoil, no matter how much worldly success he may have.

This means that in Islam, the only way to inner peace is through actualizing Tawheed in our lives. Not just by accepting Allah as the Creator of everything. But by striving to live a life of obedience to Him.

So many Muslims go wrong in understanding this. Many of us limit Tawheed to just a belief and forget that it has practical implications in our lives. Tawheed is not just about believing in Allah, it is about living a life that reflects that belief.

This forms the foundation of inner peace in Islam. Inner peace begins by accepting that we are servants of Allah. That we are in need of Him; and that the only path to peace is in obeying Him.

If you want to evaluate the level of peace in your heart, look at the quality of your relationship with Allah.

Learn more with our exclusive online courses, available here.

Posted by Ismail Kamdar in Inner Peace

4 Ways to have a refreshing Vacation

Refreshing Vacation

4 Ways to have a refreshing Vacation

This is Part Two of our series on having a productive and refreshing vacation.
Read Part One Here.

In our previous article, we discussed the benefits of a productive vacation. The question that arises from that is. “How do we attain these benefits?” This is what I will address in this article, in four simple points.

Too many people return from vacations even more tired, frustrated and burned out than before they left. This is the result of choosing the wrong time or location, or not planning properly. These four tips will help you feel refreshed after a vacation instead.

1. Plan Ahead

The most crucial step to having a refreshing vacation is to plan in advance. This includes deciding where to go, when to go, how much money to budget for the trip, and how to delegate your responsibilities while you are gone. Each of these points are crucial.

Choosing the wrong destination can lead to unwanted stress when you find the location not conducive to relaxing. Going at the wrong time of the year will defeat the entire purpose of a vacation if it is a busy time at work. You will find yourself bogged down with emails and working remotely, instead of enjoying your vacation.

Not allocating enough money to cover the expenses of the trip will leave you stressed about money the entire trip, ruining the experience. And finally, not delegating your responsibilities back home and at work to someone responsible will leave you worried and anxious throughout the trip.

Take the time to plan these four aspects of your journey months in advance: where, when, how much, and who to delegate to. This will reduce your travel stress significantly, and allow you the time and freedom to enjoy your trip.

2. Choose your timing wisely

Timing is essential when deciding to go on vacation. You want to not only keep in mind busy and quite times at work, but also which times of the year you are most burned out and in need of a break.

For me, the best time to go is immediately after my busiest month at work. The busiest month is usually followed by the quietest month, and I am significantly drained enough to require a break.

Think carefully when choosing the time of the year to take off, in order to maximize your benefits.

3. Cut off all work while on vacation

If possible, completely break from work while travelling. Take official leave, delegate your tasks to others, and put your email on auto-response. Do whatever you need to do in order to make sure you are 100% on break. Your mind, body and soul all need time to completely relax, refresh and reboot.

Remember that you are doing this so that you can operate better at work. So don’t feel guilty about ignoring your emails for a week or two while you recharge. A refreshing vacation will lead to increased productivity for many months, so it is a worthwhile investment.

4. Don’t forget your duties to Allah

Finally, as a Muslim remember that there is no vacation from obeying Allah. We need to follow Islam wherever we are. While Allah has given us some concessions while travelling like allowing us to shorten and combine our Salah, we still have obligations to towards Him.

Salah, Hijab, eating Halal, lowering the gaze, etc. are all still obligations when on vacation, so do not give these up. If you do let go of your worship while travelling, you feel return feeling guilty and regretful for taking the trip, and the impact of the trip will be completely lacking any Barakah.

Simply put: Take a vacation from work, not Islam!

Conclusion

These four tips will help you return home refreshed and recharged after travelling. Remember to plan ahead, go at the right time, break from work completely, and remain vigilant on your practice of the Deen. Do so and you will have a refreshing vacation.

In Part Three of this series, I will discuss the misconception some Muslims have that vacations are prohibited. Coming soon…

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Posted by Ismail Kamdar in Productivity