Ismail Kamdar

Ismail Kamdar is the Founder of Islamic Self Help and Izzah Academy, author of over a dozen books, and the operations manager of Yaqeen Institute.
Ismail Kamdar is the Founder of Islamic Self Help and Izzah Academy, author of over a dozen books, and the operations manager of Yaqeen Institute.

What to do when the sins of teachers affects your faith

What to do when the sins of teachers affects your faith

Note: Despite the timing, this article is NOT about the latest scandal. Rather it is advice that applies in all situations were the sins of teachers affect your faith. I only wrote this because I read comments on social media from good people about how recent scandals have affected their faith.

The sins of teachers and the hearts of students

As humans, we all look up to someone or the other.

In our spiritual journeys, we tend to latch onto the people who were most instrumental in bringing us closer to Allah. Sometimes we latch on too closely and stop treating them as human.

We build an ideal image of them in our minds, and when they fail to live up to that image, our faith in the religion itself is often shaken.

This is not a new and unique scenario. It happens all the time across multiple religions. We know that a large portion of Christians left Christianity because of the sins of priests. Likewise, I have met many Muslims who have suffered crises of faith due to the sins of teachers and heroes.

Whenever the private sins of teachers are made public, or discovered by a student, we witness the following reactions:

“This is why all scholars are not trustworthy!”

“I will leave Islam if this is true!”

“How can I be sincere if my teachers are not!”

and so on, and so forth.

While these reactions are understandable. They are also quite extreme and easily avoidable.

I too have dealt with such people

You see, I too deal with cases that shake my faith, more often that I wish.

I have been a full-time student of Islamic knowledge since the age of thirteen.

Since then, over the past eighteen years, I was dealt with teachers who were frauds, egomaniacs, vulgar, violent (Edit: I initially had a very long list here of every sin and crime I had seen scholars and duaat commit. I decided to delete the list as it was too long, detailed and depressing for most people to handle).

So why am I still Muslim and still dedicated to Dawah and teaching Islam?

Because my faith is not attached to these people.

My faith is based on my conviction that the Quran is the word of Allah and Muhammad (peace be upon him) is the final messenger of truth. There is no sin that a person can commit today that can shake my faith is these two fundamentals.

But it wasn’t always like this.

The first time I was mistreated by an Islamic teacher, it shook my faith.

I was only thirteen years old, when my great grandmother passed away. I missed a day of class because I had to attend her funeral.

My teacher (a highly respected scholar in my community) punished and humiliated me the next day in front of the entire class. My crime: skipping class to attend a funeral.

That was the first time I doubted my faith. My young heart wondered what kind of religion would produce such a hard and cruel-hearted man.

It was only years later that I would realize that the religion didn’t make him cruel. It was him who made the religion seem cruel.

Since then, I have had too many incidents to list and eventually became immune to the sins of teachers.

So what can you do?

My story and experiences aside, the purpose of this post is not to make you feel hopeless and despondent.

It is to lift your spirits and strengthen your faith.

Over the years, I have developed a series of steps that has prevented me from having my faith shaken by scandals and revealed secrets. I want to share these steps with you so you can implement them too.

Here is what you can do:

Have a balanced view of your teacher

Love your teacher. Respect your teacher. Give your teacher the benefit of the doubt.

But do not elevate him/her to the level of sainthood. Do not expect him to be sinless and perfect.

Every single human being, religious scholars included, are being tested every day. Sometimes we pass, sometimes we fail. Just like you have your secret sins, so do your teachers. They too have at times failed to pass a test, and fallen into fitna. But just as often, they have repented and grown stronger in their faith through repentance.

So treat your teachers with respect, but do not expect perfection from them.

Rather ask Allah to forgive and conceal their sins and accept their Dawah.

Do not pry into their private matters or look for fault in them. Focus on benefiting from their knowledge, while keeping in mind that they are human.

Base your faith on scripture, not people

If your faith is dependent on a specific charismatic teacher, then your faith is built on shaky grounds.

Rather your foundation should be your relationship with Allah.

Make time daily to connect with Allah through Salah, Quran, Dhikr, reflection and Istighfaar.

Build a direct relationship with Allah through His Revelation and let that be the basis of your faith. If your faith is based on Allah and His Revelation, then the sins of man cannot shake it.

For private and personal sins, forgive and overlook

Every single teacher has personal sins. Everybody is struggling to obey Allah.

So if you discover a personal sin of a teacher, ask Allah to forgive him and overlook it. He is struggling, just like you are.

Personal sins refer to sins that do not affect the public or the Dawah. Examples include a teacher being addicted to smoking or vulgar music, or a teacher who fails to lower his gaze at times, or struggles with Fajr Salah. These are personal and private sins, and do not reflect his intentions or sincerity.

These sins should not make you look down upon the teacher. Rather conceal their faults, forgive, and overlook.

When the Dawah is affected, run away

There are three main wrong intentions why some men get involved in Dawah: money, fame and women.

Most Islamic teachers are sincere and dedicated to Allah.

Yet there do exist some teachers who use the religion to gain access to fame, money or women, and in some extreme cases: all three.

As we cannot see the hearts of people, it is very hard to know the intentions of teachers.

So what should we do?

We should assume a teacher is sincere unless Allah exposes otherwise.

I believe a hypocrite cannot abuse the religion forever. Eventually he will be exposed and his intentions made public. So do not worry about your teacher’s intentions unless their actions indicate otherwise.

Focus on having good thoughts about your teachers. Ask Allah to grant you access to teachers who are righteous, sincere and authentic. And Focus on benefiting from their knowledge.

But if it is made clear to you that a certain teacher is a fraud. If it becomes very clear that an individual is using the Deen solely as a business, means to fame or access to women (or all three)…Then to protect your faith, take your knowledge from someone else, whom you do not have these doubts about.

Final Advice

There is a fine line between having Husn Dhann (good thoughts) about our teachers, and making sure we only take knowledge from sincere students of knowledge.

The key is to make dua. Over the years, I have found that dua always revealed the truth to me.

Whenever I was doubtful about a teacher, sect, school of thought, specific institute or da’ee, I made dua for clarity and guidance.

I believe it was because of this dua that I have witnessed terrible hypocritical teachers whom I learned to stay away from. And also because of this dua that I have been blessed with sincere righteous teachers whom I benefit from.

Simply put: when in doubt, make dua, and Allah will guide your heart to the truth.

Posted by Ismail Kamdar in Inner Peace

5 Productive Ways to use social media

5 Productive Ways to use social media

There are many productive ways to use social media. In my latest online course, I discuss this topic in details. Some people feel that social media is a waste of time. I agree that it is a waste of time for those who use it incorrectly.

However, if you use it for any of the five things mentioned below, it transforms into a truly beneficial usage of time.

1. Sharing beneficial links

Social Media is a great place to benefit others by sharing beneficial links. Whether it is links to Islamic articles and videos, self help articles, or health related links. There are dozens of beneficial topics out there that you can share. Sharing these links will make your social media account a means of benefit to all your friends and family members.

2. Reaching out and networking

Social Media is a great way to find and reach out to like-minded individuals. Many of my most important friends and mentors are people I connected to on social media. When used correctly, Facebook groups and LinkedIn in particular are excellent platforms for forging powerful friendships and partnerships.

3. Turn it into a Dawah platform

Like any other tool, social media can be a powerful Dawah platform. In our new online course, we teach how to do Dawah on social media effectively with over 25 ways of doing so. Utilizing social media for Dawah turns the entire experience into an act of worship with great multiplying rewards. Just make sure to stay in your lane and not talk about topics you are not qualified to address.

4. A great place to do business

The business world has gone digital, and social media plays a major role in business today. If you are a business owner and not utilizing social media to grow your business, then you are missing out. In our online course, we will teach you how to utilize every major social media network effectively for business. Special bonus sections in the course focus on details on how to utilize email and Facebook ads to effectively grow your businesses. Join the course today at a 75% discount here.

5. Inspire people

The final of our 5 Productive Ways to use social media is to simply inspire people. Whether its through sharing beneficial videos and articles, sharing powerful motivational quotes, or just being a positive presence. make it your duty to inspire people to greatness.

Social media these days can be a very dark place full of negativity, gossip, and anger. Be the difference, be the one who inspires. Not the one who dampens spirits. Inspiring and motivating people is one of the most productive ways to use social media.

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FREE CHAPTER from Ahmad Climbs A Mountain

FREE CHAPTER from Ahmad Climbs A Mountain

The following free chapter is chapter six of Ahmad Climbs A Mountain. The latest self help eBook from Islamic Self Help’s founder Ismail Kamdar.

You can read the chapter below or download the PDF here. This chapter will give you a taste of the awesome content you will find in our latest eBook.

The full eBook is currently available for purchase at Payhip, Gumroad, and Amazon.

Here is chapter six of Ahmad’s journey. Enjoy!

Free Chapter of eBook

Chapter Six: The Valley of Self-Doubt

 

Ahmad climbed for a few more days. He stopped at nights to rest in various caves and inns along the way. He was surprised to find that there were many inns operating along the mountain path. He had always assumed nobody climbed the mountain at all.

Yet as he climbed, he kept running into people. Some were resting. Some had given up and were headed back. Others had stopped at certain points and settled there.

The innkeepers fell into this last category. They did not have the determination or motivation to keep climbing to make it to the other side. But they recognized a need for inns at every significant point on the path. So, one by one, people settled at strategic stops on the mountain and set up inns to assist the travellers.

Ahmad was grateful for these inns, as they provided moments of comfort on what was otherwise an uncomfortable climb.

On the third day of climbing, Ahmad reached a valley-like segment of the mountain. There was a steep downhill incline into a small enclosed area, surrounded by the mountain’s tall wall-like slopes.

In this valley, there was an inn called “The Doubters Club,” and it was surprisingly crowded. Ahmad entered the inn and found over two dozen middle-aged people drinking coffee, hanging around, chatting, playing cards, and just having a good time.

He booked a room for the night and settled down at a corner table to have a cup of coffee. As he sat and waited for his coffee, Ahmad was joined by two middle-aged men. He recognized them as the two men he had seen playing chess when he first entered.

They had finished their game, noticed the newcomer, and decided to welcome him. “My name is Abdul,” said the first man, “and this here is Rashad. What brings you this high up the mountain, kid?”

Ahmad introduced himself and explained his purpose. The two men had a good laugh. Rashad explained why, “We were just like you when we first set off. But the higher we climbed, the harder it got. We realized then that we were never going to make it. So why bother?”

Abdul continued, “So, we settled here in this valley and opened this inn. We realized that there would be many more like us – foolish youngsters who think they can climb the mountain – so we provide them with some fun instead. Why try what you can’t do, hey?”

Ahmad did not understand what was going on. Were these two men seriously trying to talk him out of his goal? They didn’t even know him and already assumed he couldn’t succeed.

“What makes you think I can’t climb this mountain?” Ahmad replied. “Many others have done so before.”

“Not that many,” Abdul replied, “Many more stop here and turn back. Few make it beyond this point. Let me ask you this: have you ever climbed a mountain before?”

“No, but…” replied Ahmad. He wasn’t given time to complete that thought.

“So, you have no experience then!” Rashad said. “You are chasing a dream without any experience, skills, guide, or assistance. How foolish is that? You should just back out now while you still can… People die further down the road.”

“I tell you what,” said Abdul, “spend a few nights here. Enjoy the entertainment we have to offer. Think it over, and be realistic. I’m sure you’ll make the right choice then. Don’t go throwing your whole life away over a foolish dream.”

With that, they left Ahmad alone with his coffee and his thoughts. Ahmad spent the night at the inn but did not get much sleep. He was consumed with thoughts of self-doubt.

What if I fail?

What if there is nothing better on the other side?

What if I am wasting my time?

What if I am wasting my youth?

What if something happens to my family while I am away?

What if I die?

The “what ifs” flooded his mind one by one, and they were unbearable. Ahmad had not experienced such extreme negative thoughts before. He generally considered himself an optimist and a dreamer.

However, these questions did seem very realistic to him. They made sense. They were grounded in logic. And they all pointed in one direction: Run away!

Run back to the comfort of your home and do not chase any scary dreams. Why risk the hard route when an easier one exists?

Filled with such dreadful thoughts, Ahmad decided to pray for guidance again. He stood for fifteen minutes in prayer that night. After praying, his mind continued to fill with “what if” thoughts, but this time they were different:

What if I never try?

What if I go back and regret not trying and the regret lasts for the rest of my life?

What if something life-changing lies on the other side?

What if I can do it, and I never find out because I turned back too early?

What if I am about to accomplish something amazing?

What if I am closer to my goal than I think?

What if this is the one thing I need to do to truly enhance the quality of my life?

These new thoughts gave Ahmad perspective. There will always be questions, doubts, and fears. But the pain of not knowing whether we are capable is worse than the pain of trying and failing.

He was now determined to put the doubts aside and push forward towards his goal.

The next morning, Ahmad woke up early and continued on his journey. He left quietly without meeting the doubters; he certainly did not want to deal with their negativity again. Leaving them behind, he set on up the mountain accompanied by his renewed self-confidence.

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Now Available: The First Islamic Self Help Fiction eBook

Now Available: The First Islamic Self Help Fiction eBook

Alhamdulillah, I am really excited to announce the launch of my first Islamic Self Help fiction eBook: Ahmad Climbs A Mountain. I spent the bulk of 2017 writing, editing, and improving this one book.

The idea for this book actually came to my mind on a Jumah morning. I immediately sat down, and started mind Islamic Self Help Fiction mapping it. So I am really excited to launch it on a Jumah morning six months later.

This book is a new style of writing for me, and so far, the reviews I received from test-readers have been really positive. I’m really excited to know what you think of the book too.

I decided to frame my entire self help system for achieving goals as a fictional story. This new method led to the formation of this exciting tale of a young boy climbing a mountain.

Through the story, you will learn everything you need to know about setting and achieving goals.

 

Where is it available?

The eBook is currently available at Amazon Kindle, Gumroad and Payhip. You can even get a preview of the first chapter for free at Amazon. The links are listed below:

Gumroad – https://gum.co/Ahmad
Payhip – https://payhip.com/b/PmQ5
Kindle – https://www.amazon.com/Ahmad-Climbs-Mountain-Parable-Achieving-ebook/dp/B07542M4M4

FAQs about the book:

Q: Isn’t fiction Haraam?
A: No, Fiction is not Haraam. It is the content that matters. A beneficial fiction story is Halal, and is considered an extended metaphor/example/parable. Fiction is not considered lying as there is no attempt to deceive anybody.

Q: Is the book for adults or children?
A: The book is written primarily for young adults who are working towards their life goals. However, people of all ages can enjoy and benefit from it.

Q: Is the book available in paperback?
A: Not at the moment. It is only available as an eBook for the foreseeable future.

Other eBooks by Islamic Self Help

Getting The Barakah – Islamic Self Help’s premiere eBook. Getting The Barakah focuses on Time Management tips and techniques.  All of which are grounded in Islamic principles. Furthermore, It is currently our fastest selling eBook. Get your copy here.

Best Of Creation – An Islamic Guide to Self Confidence. This exclusive eBook will show you how to build your confidence. It will also teach you to overcome your fears, redefine your mistakes, and step out of your comfort zone.

Every principle in this book is grounded in Islamic teachings. This eBook will help you grow in both confidence and spirituality. Click here to purchase.

Discover Your Hidden Gems – Islamic Self Help’s first workbook. This workbook contains six activities designed to help you discover your strengths, weaknesses and to set your goals accordingly. Get started today!

Homeschooling 101 – Learn about this alternative method of education with our exclusive eBook. In this eBook, discover ten reasons to consider homeschooling. We have included a step-by-step guide to getting started. Zohra Sarwari provides an exclusive foreword to the eBook. Buy it by clicking here.

Themes of the Quran – This unique eBook summarizes the core theme of each Surah of the Quran. This eBook is divided into 30 chapters, each summarizing the themes covered in one Juz of the Quran. Get your copy today and gain a deeper understanding of the Quran.

Visit our ebook store for our full range of Islamic books!

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25 Beautiful Hadiths about Good Manners

Good Manners Hadiths

25 Beautiful Hadiths about Good Manners

Good Manners (Adab) are a fundamental part of our faith. Outside of Aqeedah and Fiqh, Adab is one of the most important parts of Islam to study.

In fact, entire books of Hadith revolve around manners and character. Two of the best of examples of this are Riyadh As-Saliheen by Imam Nawawi, and Adab Al-Mufrad by Imam Al-Bukhari.

As a reminder to myself and yourself, here are 25 of my favorite hadiths related to good manners.

Hadiths related to the virtues of good manners

  1. The messenger (peace be upon him) said, “Nothing is heavier on the Scale of Deeds than one’s good manners.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
  2. “The most beloved of Allah’s slaves to Allah are those with the best manners.” (At-Tabrani)
  3. “A person may attain through good manners the same level of virtue as those who spend their nights in prayer.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
  4. ‘The best among you in Islam are those with the best manners,” (Saheeh Bukhari)
  5. When asked about the definition of righteousness, the Prophet (peace be upon him) replied, “Righteousness is good character,” (Saheeh Bukhari)

Hadiths about the most important manners

  1. “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good things or remain silent.” (Saheeh Muslim)
  2. “Verily, from the perfection of Islam is that a person leaves what does not concern him.” (Sunan At-Tirmidhi)
  3. “Do not lose your temper.” *repeated three times as advice (Saheeh Bukhari)
  4. “None of you will have faith until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.” (Saheeh Bukhari)
  5. “He who does not show mercy to our young ones or show respect for our elders is not one of us.” (Saheeh Bukhari)

Hadiths about manners towards parents

  1. Abdullah Ibn Masood (RA) said, “I asked the Prophet (peace be upon him) which action Allah loves best. He replied, ‘Prayer at its proper time.’ I asked, ‘Then what?’  He said, ‘Then kindness to parents.” (Adab Al-Mufrad)
  2. Abu Hurayra (RA) said, “The Prophet (peace be upon him) was asked, ‘Messenger of Allah, to whom should I be dutiful?’ ‘Your mother,’ he replied. He was asked, ‘Then whom?’ ‘Your mother,’ he replied. He was asked, ‘Then whom?’ ‘Your mother,’ he replied. He was asked, ‘Then whom?’ He replied, ‘Your father.'”
    (Adab Al-Mufrad)
  3. “Allah curses anyone who curses his parents.” (Adab Al-Mufrad)
  4. “From among the major sins is for a man to despise his own father,” (Adab Al-Mufrad)
  5. A man came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) wanting to join him on Jihad. He has two elderly parents. The Prophet (peace be upon him) told him, “Your striving is in serving them,” (Adab Al-Mufrad)

Hadiths about mercy

  1. “Allah will not show mercy to a person who does not show mercy to other people.” (Adab Al-Mufrad)
  2. “Show mercy and you will be shown mercy. Forgive and Allah will forgive you.” (Adab Al-Mufrad)
  3. “Those who are merciful will be shown mercy by the Most Merciful. Be merciful to those on the earth and the One in the heavens will have mercy upon you.” (Sunan At-Tirmidhi)
  4. “Spread peace between yourselves. By the one in whose hand is my soul, you will not enter Paradise until you are merciful.” (Al-Mustadrak)
  5. Anas Ibn Malik (RA) said, “The Prophet (peace be upon him) was merciful and no one would come to him in need except that he would promise to help him or he would give him something.” (Adab Al-Mufrad)

General hadiths about good manners

  1. “Modesty only causes good,” (Saheeh Bukhari)
  2. “A good word is charity,” (Saheeh Bukhari)
  3. “The believer does not curse/use vulgar language,” (Tirmidhi)
  4. “Whoever desires more wealth and a long life should maintain family ties.” (Saheeh Bukhari)
  5. “Do not envy one another, and do not inflate prices for one another, and do not hate one another, and do not turn away from one another, and do not undercut one another in trade, but be slaves of Allah and brothers. A Muslim is the brother of a Muslim: he does not oppress him, nor does he fail him, nor does he lie to him, nor does he hold him in contempt. Taqwa (piety) is right here [and he pointed to his chest three times]. It is evil enough for a man to hold his brother Muslim in contempt. The whole of a Muslim is inviolable for another Muslim: his blood, his property, and his honour.” (Saheeh Muslim)

Final Reminder

These hadiths should serve as a strong reminder to each of us to treat each other well. Whether it be our parents, spouse, children, neighbors, or even strangers, we should treat each person with the best of manners.

Good character is one of the paths to Paradise in Islam. This does not mean that a person who has good character will entire Paradise is they ignore the obligations of Islam. Rather, someone who fulfills their obligations to Allah and treats people well is on the path to Paradise.

May Allah make use from among the people of manners and Paradise.

 

 

Posted by Ismail Kamdar in Inner Peace