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Boredom and Hard Work: Necessary for Success

Boredom and Hard Work: Necessary for Success

Modern entertainment and conveniences have accustomed us to overstimulation. We want to be excited and entertained all the time and are easily bored. We try to fill our lives with distractions to avoid boredom and silence. When seeking ways to solve our problems, we expect an exciting conclusion to our story. We may even be disappointed when we ask others about their life stories to learn that their success came in a boring and mundane manner. Yet this is the true secret to success in the modern world; being the one who is willing to do the boring stuff.

Almost any major goal requires hard work, patience, timing, and long-term commitment. Seeing long-term projects through to fruition is not an exciting process. Often it is slow and boring. If you write a book, you often have to wait eighteen months before it is published and another year before you receive any profits from it. You want to get wealthy from investments, well that means you need to invest when the market crashes, and then wait, sometimes for years, for it to go back up, so you can cash out at the right moment. That business you want to build requires paperwork, lawyers, meetings, planning, and solving logistical problems. Nothing is as flashy or exciting as it seems in movies and videogames. Real work is often boring, and it is the boring work that opens the doors to success.

Get accustomed to boredom

Boredom is not your enemy. If anything, it is your secret ally. It is during moments of boredom that our brains develop their best ideas. Creativity flourishes during these moments. When we deprive ourselves the opportunity to be silent and bored, we hinder our own creativity. Make space for boredom, make time for boredom. There is no need to entertain yourself twenty-four seven. You do not need music blasting in your ears as you work, and multiple devices in your face as you eat. Make some space for thinking, dreaming, and planning. Boredom is your friend in the path to success.

Be patient and persistent

Most goals take time, and often there is nothing to do on the path to success but to wait. If you applied for a document, you have to wait for it. When you invest in a new stock, you have to wait for it to grow, which may take years. When you start a business, you may have days in which you have no sales, and you may to wait years before it truly flourishes and reaches its full potential. Patience when things get slow, and boring is necessary if you truly want to succeed.

You also need to be persistent. This means working hard even when you feel tired, burned out, sad, overwhelmed, or bored. It means that you keep pushing forward even when things seem bleak, and your goals feel unattainable. Persistence is key for maintaining workflow during times of low motivation, and for overcoming trials and setbacks. If you wish to succeed in any field, be ready to be patient when things are slow and persistent when things get in your way.

Do the work that others neglect

In every field, you will find a lot of neglected work. There are many tasks that are too tedious, boring, and overwhelming for most people. Many people will ignore these tasks and focus only on work that is interesting or exciting. In doing so, they miss out on many opportunities to accomplish great things. Very often, success lies behind the boring work that nobody wants to do. It is these tasks that often unlock new opportunities, reveal hidden paths to success, and remove obstacles from one’s path. To win, you must get used to boring work. Whatever field you are in, look at what others are ignoring because it is too hard, too boring, or too slow. Study these options carefully because they may be exactly what you need to accomplish your goals.

Develop a Strong Work Ethic

One of the best qualities you need to succeed is a strong work ethic. Get accustomed to hard work at a young age. Force yourself to focus and get things done, no matter how hard, slow, boring, or stressful the task is. If you can master your craft and become the hardest working person in the room, you can potentially become unstoppable in your field. You will outwork everyone, accomplish more, and earn more because you are willing to do the work that others refuse to do.

Learn to breathe and enjoy peace

Peace and silence are luxuries in modernity. Life is so busy, noisy, and overcluttered that very few people have the luxury to sit quietly and think. This is one of the greatest gifts that could work in your favour. Take time to relax, learn to enjoy nature, get comfortable being alone with your thoughts, and take extended breaks from technology. Do so, and you will unlock deeper thoughts, more creative ideas, and a calmer soul. We must be intentional in seeking silence and moments of peace.

Its okay to get bored

Boredom means you have time. You have less problems than others. You have the luxury to think, rest, or start something new. Boring work is often the most valuable work, and moments of boredom are sometimes the most important moments of the day. Take the time to be patient, persistent, and work hard. A strong work ethic, coupled with patience and determination will help you power through most obstacles.

To be our best, we need to let go of our desire to be constantly entertained. This is a childish desire that holds us back from our full potential. Adult life is not meant to be exciting and fun all the time. You should still carve out time for rest and entertainment, but the bulk of your day should go in hard work. It does not matter if that work is boring, what matters is that it is beneficial and helps open the doors to your success. Success is hard work and boring, so get used to it.

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The Importance of Courage in Islam

The Importance of Courage in Islam

Khutbah on Courage in light of Palestinian Struggle

O you who believe! Whoever of you goes back on his religion, God will bring a people whom He loves and who love Him, kind towards the believers, stern with the disbelievers. They strive in the way of God, and do not fear the blame of the critic. That is the grace of God; He bestows it upon whomever He wills. God is Embracing and Knowing.

Quran 5:54

The Prophet ﷺ said, “Let not fear of the people stop one of you from speaking the truth, if he knows it.”

Musnad Aḥmad 11869

Courage is Necessary

Courage is necessary for Muslims. When calling people towards the truth, you will definitely find yourself at odds with many people and their ideas. The truth is often bitter and very difficult for people to swallow. Because they are unable to criticize the message, many people turn to criticizing the messenger instead. When you choose the path of Dawah, be conscious of the fact that you are choosing a path in which you will face great criticism, and perhaps even violence. The caller must be ready to defend the truth and propagate it in all circumstances.

When the Prophet ﷺ received the first revelation, Waraqah Ibn Naufal told him, “I wish I would live to assist you when your people exile you from this land.” The Prophet ﷺ was beloved to his people and could not understand why they would do that. Waraqah explained, “No messenger brought a message like this before you, except that his people turned against him.”

If the prophets could not convey their message without facing rejection, ridicule, and violence from their people, what makes us think that our Dawah will be easy and accepted without any pushback?

The Prophet ﷺ faced every kind of trial in the path of Dawah, yet he remained the model of courage and integrity throughout. He was mocked, slandered, ridiculed, boycotted, physically attacked, exiled, and eventually had to fight his own tribe in multiple battles. Yet he remained courageous in every circumstances.

The companions were all great models of courage in Dawah too. Abdullah Ibn Masud was the first to recite Quran openly by the Kabah, even though it led to him receiving a beating from the pagans. When Umar accepted Islam, he announced it in public, knowing that people would attack him for it. Sumayyah and her husband Yasir were killed by Abu Jahl for openly accepting Islam, and Bilal endured the stones and scorching sands of the desert for the sake of Allah.

During this period, one of the companion who endured the greatest torture narrates the following. Khabbab ibn al-Arat reported: We complained to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ while he was leaning upon his rolled up cloak in the shade of the Ka’bah. We said, “Will you ask Allah to help us? Will you supplicate to Allah for us?” The Prophet ﷺ said, “Among those before you, a believer would be seized, a ditch would be dug for him, and he would be thrown into it. Then, they would bring a saw that would be put on top of his head to split him into two halves, and his flesh would be torn from the bone with iron combs. Yet, all of this did not cause them to abandon their religion. By Allah, this religion will prevail until a rider travels from Yemen to Hadhramaut, fearing no one but Allah and the wolf, lest it trouble his sheep. Rather, you are being impatient.”

Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 6943

In every generation, the people of dawah and truth had to face opposition with great courage. The likes of Imam Malik, Imam Abu Hanifa and Imam Ahmad were unjustly imprisoned for their opinions, yet we know today that they were in the right. Imam al-Bukhari was slandered and boycotted through a dedicated smear campaign, yet today his book is the most important hadith collection on earth. Ibn Taymiyyah was courageous in both the battlefield against the Mongols, and in the court when facing tyrannical rulers. Every great scholar in history had decisive moments in which they proved their courage by standing firm for what they believed in, regardless of the consequences.

A man asked the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, while he had his leg in the stirrup, “Which jihad is best?” The Prophet said, “A word of truth before a tyrannical ruler.”

Sunan al-Nasā’ī 4209

Be very clear about this, when you choose the path of Dawah, you will face opposition, obstacles, and trials, and you will have enemies that will try to bring you down and destroy your reputation. It is part of the job as an heir of the prophets that you face these obstacles with courage and trust in Allah.

This is why those who are beloved to Allah are described as, “They strive in the way of God, and do not fear the blame of the critic.”

Quran 5:54

Do Not Be Cowardly

Sadly, many Muslims today were raised without any sense of courage, resiliency or mental toughness. Too many people choose the path of Dawah with a naïve mindset that people will love them, praise them, and support them. They are shocked at the first sign of resistance and lose heart at the first criticism. Such people are not cut out for this work. It is not a job for the weak of heart, this is tough role that requires firm courage, resiliency, and firmness in faith. Without these qualities, we will fail easily.

I remember joining a new dawah organization that was facing criticism for the first time. Many people quit their jobs with the organization saying that they did not expect any harsh criticism. Others cried in meetings, saying that they are trying to do something good, so why are people being mean. Nobody was looking in the mirror, analysing the criticism for any merits, or displaying the mental toughness necessary to power through. It was as if they were expecting dawah to be an easy job which brings with it only praise and fame. Because of these unrealistic expectations, many of these people quit the dawah and chose easier paths in life instead.

Dawah require courage because dawah means challenging people’s worldviews, opinions, and core beliefs. It means upsetting the status quo. Dawah is about countering falsehood with truth. Like Moses in the court of Pharaoh, you have to stand firm and brave as you convey the message with conviction. You cannot be naïve and expect people to like you or even accept you. For many people, dawah is a lonely path they thread alone or with a small companionship of righteous friends. But they have Allah, and Allah is enough for them.

Without courage, multiple problems occur. Either you give up, distort the message, hide the truth or becoming a pawn for someone else. Spineless people sell out the Muslims every day because they lack the courage to speak the truth and bear the consequences of it. In our times, some preachers purposely hide some aspects of the message out of fear of upsetting specific demographics, resulting in a distorted message.

Be brave and be ready to handle the trials that come with a life dedicated to spreading the message of truth. Falsehood will fight back, we must be ready for this, and courageous in the intellectual battle between truth and falsehood.


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Resource List: Palestine/Israel Conflict

Resource List: Palestine/Israel Conflict

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

As the genocide in Gaza continues, many of us feel helpless due to our inability to assist the Palestinians against their oppressors. The mass propaganda from the Zionist media outlets makes it even harder to sit back and do nothing. One way in which we can contribute productively to this is to fight propaganda with truth. To assist you in this, we have put together a resource list including some of the best courses, books, podcasts, and videos on the topic.

Utilize and promote any of the resources below to help spread the truth about the plight of the Palestinians:

  1. FREE ONLINE COURSE: Virtues & History of Al-Aqsa by Sh. Ismail Kamdar
  2. PODCAST SERIES: History of Zionism and Palestine – Toledo Society
  3. BOOK: Why Israel? The Anatomy of Zionist Apartheid – A South African Perspective by Suraya Dadoo and Firoz Osman
  4. PODCAST EPISODE: The Thinking Muslim – Gaza: Resistance and Betrayal with Sami Hamdi
  5. DEBATE: Piers Morgan vs Mohammed Hijab On Palestine and Israel-Hamas War
  6. PODCAST EPISODE: The Lies About Palestine with Imam Tom, Dr. Omar Suleiman and Dr. Ovamir Anjum
  7. BOOK: The Palestine Nakba: Decolonising History, Narrating the Subaltern, Reclaiming Memory by Nur Masalha
  8. VIDEO: How to become an indomitable ummah with Imam Tom, Shaykh Mikaeel Smith and Sami Hamdi
  9. DOCUMENTARY: Palestine 1920: The Other Side of the Palestinian Story by al-Jazeerah
  10. VIDEO: How Israel STOLE Palestine by OnePath Network

I hope the above resources help you to educate yourself and others about this topic. Please message me if you know of more resources to add to this list. Let us make this as comprehensive as possible.

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Thinking Beyond Oneself

Thinking Beyond Oneself

We live in an age of hyper-individualism (a tendency for people to act in a highly individual way, without regard to society). Many young people today have grown up in an environment that has made them extremely self-focused. The Self-Help industry has played a major role in making this problem worse. Everything is about your goals, your dreams, and your desires. Many people have reached a dangerous level of self-centeredness. At this point, life has become all about the self. There is no sense of family, community or ummatic concern. The needs and desires of the self override everything else.

Islam, however, calls on us to find balance between fulfilling the rights of the Creator, the rights of the Creation and our own needs and goals. This balance is missing a lot of modern culture. Many young people do not want to get married because they do not want the responsibility of another person. If they do get married, many young people do not want to have children because they see children as a burden and an obstacle in the way of their personal goals. The idea of one’s neighbours, community or the ummah as a whole having rights over oneself has become a foreign idea in the minds of many people.

This problematic paradigm needs to be adjusted. People need to learn how to care about others. The dangers of not doing so is that many people will end up alone, and communities will slowly fall apart. Communities thrive when people care about each other and put the needs of others above their own. To get back to this natural way of living, here are a few necessary steps we can all take.

Embrace Responsibility

Muslims must be responsible and socially conscious people. The rights of others are not a burden, but an opportunity for us to become the best versions of ourselves. It is through taking care of the rights of others that we find fulfilment and true happiness. Responsibility is necessary for growth, and for unlocking better versions for ourselves.

Start small and take up responsibilities around the home and at work. When you are ready, embrace the responsibility of starting a family. As your family grows, so will you. Marriage and becoming a parent are important milestones that shape us and help us grow into better versions of ourselves. So do not delay these important steps unnecessarily. Over time, you will find more joy in fulfilling your family responsibilities then in selfish pursuits.

Learn more about other people and their lives

Too many of us live in silos. We sit all day at home working online, while surfing social media and streaming movies and tv shows. Such people lack real lives and connection with others. This is an unnatural way of life that has made us disconnected from humanity. It is time to break away from these dangerous habits and embrace the real world.

Leave the comfort of your home. Talk to real people. Learn about their challenges, problems, and dreams. Form real friendships and connections with others. This will help you develop more empathy for people and change the way you think about life and your goals. Once you connect deeply with enough people and understand their problems, your own goals may evolve from selfish pursuits to solving societal problems. It is then that you will discover the true joy of contribution. A joy that the selfish person can never understand.

Make time to serve your community. Volunteer to help others. Go out and do what you can for others. Assist your neighbours, join a community development initiative, and get involved in helping others. There is far more joy in service than in being alone. Over time, you will learn to enjoy this more than your personal pursuits.

Study the Quran and Sunnah teachings on this topic

The Quran and Sunnah are full of wisdom on the importance of family, community and ummatic concern. We will end with some quotations from the Quran and Sunnah for you to reflect on. Hopefully, this reflection can inspire true and deep change in all of us.

Quran on Ummah

“You are the best community that ever emerged for humanity: you advocate what is moral, and forbid what is immoral, and believe in God.” (Surah Ale-Imran 3:110)

“And cooperate with one another in virtuous conduct and conscience, and do not cooperate with one another in sin and hostility. And fear God. God is severe in punishment.” (Surah al-Ma’idah 5:2)

“This nation of yours is one nation, and I am your Lord, so fear Me.” (Surah al-Muminun 23:52)

Hadiths on Caring for others

“Seek out the vulnerable for me, for you are only given provision and divine support due to your care for the vulnerable.” (Abu Dawud 2594)

“The parable of the believers in their affection, mercy, and compassion for each other is that of a body. When any limb aches, the whole body reacts with sleeplessness and fever.” (Sahih Bukhari 6011, Sahih Muslim 2586)

“Whoever would love to be shaded in the shade of Allah, let him help someone in hardship or waive a loan.” (Musnad Ahmad 15520)

“Allah continues to fulfill the needs of the servant as long as he fulfills the needs of his brother.” (Mu’jam al-Kabir 4664)

“The merciful will be shown mercy by the Most Merciful. Be merciful to those on the earth, and the One in the heavens will have mercy upon you.” (Tirmidhi 1924)

“Verily, the believers are like bricks of a building, each part strengthening the other,” (Sahih Bukhari 481, Sahih Muslim 2585)

“There is a (compulsory) Sadaqa (charity) to be given for every joint of the human body (as a sign of gratitude to Allah) everyday the sun rises. To judge justly between two persons is regarded as Sadaqa, and to help a man concerning his riding animal by helping him to ride it or by lifting his luggage on to it, is also regarded as Sadaqa, and (saying) a good word is also Sadaqa, and every step taken on one’s way to offer the compulsory prayer (in the mosque) is also Sadaqa and to remove a harmful thing from the way is also Sadaqa.” (Sahih Bukhari 2989)

Hadiths on avoiding jealousy and hatred between believers

“Renounce the world and Allah will love you, and renounce what the people possess and the people will love you.” (Nawawi’s 40 Hadith, 31)

“None of you will have faith till he wishes for his (Muslim) brother what he likes for himself.” (Sahih Bukhari 13)

“Do not envy one another, and do not inflate prices for one another, and do not hate one another, and do not turn away from one another, and do not undercut one another in trade, but [rather] be slaves of Allah and brothers [amongst yourselves]. A Muslim is the brother of a Muslim: he does not oppress him, nor does he fail him, nor does he lie to him, nor does he hold him in contempt. Taqwa (piety) is right here [and he pointed to his chest three times]. It is evil enough for a man to hold his brother Muslim in contempt. The whole of a Muslim is inviolable for another Muslim: his blood, his property, and his honour.” (Sahih Muslim 2564)

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Islamic Chivalry: Part 2: Brotherhood

Islamic Chivalry: Part 2: Brotherhood

In Part 1 of this series, we discussed some Islamic principles related to work ethic. In this second article, we will discuss ten important Islamic principles related to building and maintaining the bonds of brotherhood (or sisterhood) between Muslims. Muslim men should implement these principles when dealing with other Muslim men, likewise Muslim women should apply these principles when dealing with other women. Friendships across genders is discouraged in Islam, and should be avoided.

Brotherhood forms the foundations of community, after family. A man is only as strong as his close circle of friends. Building and maintaining quality friendships with righteous men is crucial for one’s personal development and growth. The following ten principles are extracted from classical works on chivalry and supported by hadiths and quotations from the pious predecessors. These principles were extracted to help form stronger foundations of brotherhood.

Do not seek out the faults of others.

Abu Huraira (RA) reported that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “One of you sees the speck in his brother’s eye while he forgets the log in his own eye.”

Sahih Ibn Hibban 5761, Grade: Sahih

Abdullah Ibn Umar (RA) narrated that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “Whoever conceals the faults of a Muslim, Allah will conceal his faults in this world and in the Hereafter.”

Sahih Muslim 2580, Sahih al-Bukhari 2422

You cannot build a relationship with someone if you are constantly seeking their faults. In order to form a friendship, you need to seek out the good in others. Seek righteous company, but do not seek perfection. There is nobody perfect on earth today. If you seek out the faults of the righteous, you will find it but it will cost you your relationship.

If someone is striving to please Allah, then that is enough. Be a brother to him and do not push him away from Allah. A person’s private sins are between him and his Lord. So do not seek them out, expose them, or use them against him. Focus on the good in others, and hope that they will do the same for you. Our goal as brothers in Islam is to help each other get to Paradise. It is not to tear each other down.

Maintain good relations with other Muslims

Abdullah Ibn Umar (RA) narrated that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “The Muslim is a brother to another Muslim. He does not wrong him, nor surrender him. Whoever fulfills the needs of his brother, Allah will fulfill his needs.”

Sahih Muslim 2580, Sahih al-Bukhari 2422

The brotherhood of Islam is a sacred bond. Believers are bonded to each other by their shared faith. This faith makes the honor of your brother sacred to you. A Muslim man must care for other believers and strive to assist them in any way he can. He should always be a cause of benefit to society and never a cause of harm. A Muslim man’s strength and skills must be used to defend and protect the ummah, never to harm another believer.

Be generous always in spending on your friends.

Ibn Abbas (RA) reported that the Prophet ﷺ said, “Verily, Allah Almighty is Generous and He loves generosity. He loves the highest morals and He detests pettiness.”

Hilyat al-Awliya 5:28, Grade: Sahih

Generosity is the core characteristic of the Muslim man. It separates the true gentleman from the rest. Throughout history, every culture honored the generous among them. To be the best of brothers, you need to excel in generosity.

Our Lord is Al-Karim (Most Generous), and his Prophet ﷺ was the most generous of His creation. Generosity is expected when dealing with family, friends, neighbors, and guests. The Muslim man spends generously on all these people, being the best of hosts, knowing well that Al-Karim will provide for him. When you invite your friends over or treat them to a night out, spend as much as you without taking on debt. Be the first to pay the bill, and compete with your friends in generosity.

Maintain old friendships, do not let them die.

Abdullah Ibn Umar (RA) said that the Prophet ﷺ said, “Respect the loved ones of your father and do not cut them off, lest Allah extinguish your light.”

Adab al-Mufrad 40, Grade: Sahih

It is too easy to forget people as we grow and reach higher ranks in life. We tend to forget those who helped us when we were young, like our old friends and mentors, and our parents’ friends. Take time to seek out old friendships and rekindle them. Find ways to maintain the bonds of brotherhood with your heroes and old friends. Be the one to reach out and make things work.

Help your friends whenever and wherever possible.

Abdullah Ibn Umar (RA) said that the Prophet ﷺ said, “Allah helps the servant as long as he helps his brother.”

Sahih Muslim 2580, Sahih al-Bukhari 2422

Be generous with your time and skills. Be a servant leader. Lead your friends by being there for them. When they need help, be the first to help. Go out of your way for others, and Allah will take care of you. A Muslim man leads by serving and helping others. His selflessness leads to blessings in his life beyond his imagination. Be the one that people know they can rely on during difficult times.

Love each other for the sake of Allah and visit each other often.

Abu Huraira (RA) reported that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “Verily, Allah will say on the Day of Resurrection: Where are those who love each other for the sake of My glory? Today, I will shelter them in My shade on a day when there is no shade but Mine.”

Sahih Muslim 2566

Love each other for the sake of Allah. Seek out righteous friends and love them for their righteousness. Your friends should remind you of Allah. They should increase your piety and bring you closer to Allah. You should have this same impact on them. A friendship for the sake of Allah is a friendship without any worldly motives. It is a friendship that stems from one common interest: the pleasure of Allah.

Tell your friends that you love them, and visit them often. Spend quality time together so that the bonds of brotherhood grow strong. A friendship for Allah’s sake cannot be broken easily. It is a strong bond that benefits both sides in this world and the next. And earns them a place of shade under Allah’s Throne on the Last Day.

Share in the joy of your brothers by joining in the celebration

Abu Huraira (RA) reported that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “If one of you is invited for a meal, let him respond. If he is fasting, let him pray for the host. If he is not fasting, let him eat.”

Sahih Muslim 1431

Be happy for your friends when they succeed. Celebrate their successes with them. A believer holds no jealousy for his brothers. He wants them to succeed and to be happy. Their happiness is his happiness. He is happy for them when they graduate, get married, have children, get a good job, accomplish a life goal, or get a promotion. He wants nothing but good for them and is genuinely happy for them.

If you are invited to a celebration, then attend it as long as it is permissible to do so. Avoid events with prohibited or dubious activities. If the environment is pure, then attend their celebration and celebrate their milestones with them. Be genuinely happy for them, and pray that they achieve even more success and happiness in this world.

Be joyful and happy when spending time with your friends and brothers.

Abu Dhar (RA) reported that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “Smiling in the face of your brother is charity.”

Tirmidhi 1956, Grade: Sahih

Muhammad ibn al-Nadr (RA) said, “The first part of manliness is a cheerful face. The second part is kindness to people. The third part is fulfilling the needs of others.”

al-Mujālasah wa Jawāhir al-‘Ilm 828

Do not be grumpy and mean to others. A Muslim man is a source of joy for those around him. Some brothers mistakenly assume that being righteous means being stern and harsh to others. This includes their family and friends. These men sap the joy out of any room they enter. People disassociate with them because they bring doom and gloom wherever they go.

A Muslim man must be a source of cheer and joy to others. There is a time for strictness and harshness, but these should be used sparingly and only when necessary to stop an evil. The general personality of a believer is one of joy and cheerfulness. The Prophet ﷺ was a cheerful man. He was always smiling and treated people well. People enjoyed spending time around him, and enjoyed his company. A believer must model this character in social settings.

Treat people as you would like them to treat you.

Anas ibn Malik (RA) reported that the Prophet ﷺ said, “None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.”

Sahih Bukhari 13, Sahih Muslim 45

The golden principle of social interactions. We must love for others what we love for ourselves. We need to treat people as we wish to be treated. If you want kindness, be kind. If you want good company, be good company. And if you want a life of peace and happiness, then be a source of peace and happiness for others.

Be selfless when dealing with others. Want success for them in both worlds. Be happy at their success and celebrate with them. Pray that they are always happy and successful. Be there for them during their difficult times, and treat them like your own family. Be an honorable man who treats others with honor. A true believer wants the best for everyone and holds no grudges or jealousy in his heart for his friends.

Be easy-going with your friends and join them in their activities.

Qurrah ibn Khalid reported that he asked Muhammad ibn Sirin, “Did the companions have fun?”

Ibn Sirin replied, “They were nothing but human. Ibn Umar (RA) would have fun and compose songs of poetry.”

Hilyat al-Awliya 2437

There is no sin in enjoying permissible entertainment. Do not be the buzzkill of your friendships. Spend quality time with your friends doing permissible, yet fun, activities. Play sports together, go camping, share a few laughs over a cup of coffee, and genuinely enjoy each other’s company. Islam is a not an overstrict religion that prohibits fun. There are millions of permissible ways to have fun. Find some fun activities that you and your friends enjoy, and make time to do these activities together.

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