Be Yourself!
This is my personal motto: Be Yourself as long as being yourself is halal! I spent my teenage years in a Darul Uloom whose culture was such that everybody was bullied into dressing alike, speaking alike and pretending that we are all the same, stripped of any individuality. This environment made me grow rebellious and I would upset the status quo with small attempts at being different.
As I studied Islam more deeply, I was amazed at how Islam has room for so many different personality types. The companions of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) were diverse in their personalities. They included scholars, warriors, leaders, businessmen, farmers, strict people, funny people, thinkers and followers.
This led to me formulating my motto: Be yourself as long as being yourself is halal. Allah does not ask us to be robots: looking alike, dressing alike and behaving like we don’t have any unique attributes. At the same time, we all have evil within us that needs to be suppressed, and that part of us should be controlled.
Be yourself. Do not worry about what people say, just be yourself whether that means being strict or humorous. Don’t pretend to be strict because others are, and don’t pretend to be funny because other people want you to.
Let your natural personality flow and you will feel confident and happy. If you need to change anything, change it for the sake of Allah to grow closer to Him. Base your life changes on pleasing Allah, not on pleasing people.
Be your genuine and best self and not only will you grow in confidence but people will appreciate your honesty and courage and will eventually follow in your footsteps.
Best Of Creation: An Islamic Guide to Self-Confidence, pp. 166-167
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This is one of the best books i have read on Self-Confidence. I would love to see some more Ahadith and Quranic verses on self confidence. For instance, Quranic Verse that ولا تهنو ولا تحزنو وانتم الاعون….. is a powerful verse on self confidence, and a hadith that says, its enough for a person to be counted as an evil when he humiliates his brother…
I would love the shiekh to write on self-discipline, perseverance ( persistence),public speaking, managing thoughts and shaping our personalities… these are core competencies that every Muslim must have..